Unless you’ve been under a rock over the last few years, you’ve more than likely heard of the ‘law of attraction’. The term was first coined in the late 1800’s, but grew in notoriety in the early 2000’s following Rhonda Byrne’s film ‘The Secret’ (you can watch it here).
In a nutshell, the law of attraction states that we attract what we believe, think and feel. Anything we want to create or ‘manifest’ we can think or speak about and, at some point, it will come to fruition. Like a wish from a dandelion clock, your desires and wants float off into the universe and return back to you granted. Whether we intend it or not, whether it is in the precise way we planned or not, our thoughts become things.
Have you ever been late for something and experienced more delays? All the traffic lights being red, or the bus making more stops than usual? In your head you’re saying ‘I’m going to be late! I’m going to be late!’, think the white rabbit in Alice in wonderland stylee. Well guess what? You were late!
How about when you’ve been thinking of someone and you suddenly run into them, receive a message or a call? What about a song going round and round in your head and it suddenly plays on the radio shortly after?
Many put this down to coincidence. I did too. For a while ….
As a child, I would secretly cross my fingers in the hope that I would get the things I really wanted. I’d do this for the most random of things! Little things that others wouldn’t think twice about. Like being chosen to stand in front of the class to read something, or being asked to explain something we were studying in front of others. I was, and remain, an introvert. (Not to be confused with lacking in confidence …. I’ve worked hard on this over the years and have that in abundance. But I’m still very happy to let others take centre stage rather than me lol.)
At this time, when I was young, it was due to a lack of self belief and unbelievably painful shyness. I never wanted ANY attention directed my way. So I would tightly cross my fingers under the desk and say to myself ‘you won’t pick me, you won’t pick me’.
Guess what? Nine out of ten times it worked!
Now, I’m not saying this was a good thing. It reinforced some behaviours that were, well in retrospect, not helpful at all. But without even knowing it, I was manifesting my wishes. Blowing every seed from my dandelion clock so they were floating up and away on the breeze. Making things happen.
For those cynics reading this, it’s ok if you think this is all kinds of crazy. I really don’t mind. And for those that have tried to use the law of attraction without success, I get why you would now be questioning it’s accuracy.
But hear me out.
From childhood we are conditioned. We learn that certain beliefs, actions and behaviours are acceptable and others are not. We don’t believe in ‘magic’ (unless you’ve got supercool parents who are just a li’l’ bit woowoo – lucky you btw!) and we’re taught to follow a very simple programme:
- Go to school.
- Work hard so you get qualifications. Don’t do anything too ‘different’ from what is expected.
- Get a job.
- Work your way up to better jobs, more money and more responsibility.
- Get married and have children.
- Carry on working hard and get an even BETTER job.
- Retire and enjoy the fruits of your labour.
Sounds like a great plan! I followed it to the letter for the best part of 30 years.
Then I came across The Secret and wow, my mind was blown. I read the book countless times, watched the film over and over, listened to the audio every moment I couldn’t read or watch it. And yet…..
…. NOTHING changed! Not a single thing.
I couldn’t understand why. I was completely baffled.
Then I realised – of course! When we are taught something new and it goes against what has been ingrained in us for such a long time, our brain starts screaming:
It’s called ‘cognitive dissonance’ and it’s when your actions, beliefs and what you ‘know’ as ‘fact’ do not align with what you are actually doing.
Externally you might be doing the stuff, following the universal law, but internally your programming has already kicked in. Your subconscious retains more information than you’ll ever knowingly forget and is now in the boxing ring with your conscious wishes.
It’s for your own protection! Fight or flight! Completely misguided, but years of conditioning doesn’t disappear overnight.
You need to tell Tyler Durdun to ‘do one’ and take his fight club elsewhere. You must trust in something you can’t physically see. You must let go of what you’ve known for a lifetime and reprogram your own brain.
It’s not easy, but it is possible.
In 2015 I left the corporate world and started my own business. 12 months after I had originally planned (I was still learning how all this stuff works, so give me a break!) but I made it happen. I’ve manifested money when my bank account has been in the red; a car when the one I had was held together with rust; things for my kids I was unsure I could source; unknowingly befriending an expert in a specialist field I wanted to learn more from; all sorts.
I also manifested things I certainly did not want. But that’s a story for another time lol.
If you watch the movie and decide to try this, be aware of four hugely important things:
- Steer clear of ‘lack’ or ‘limiting’ language. Like attracts like, whether positive or not. So instead of saying ‘I need … xyz’ use phrases set in the present tense as if you already have it in abundance. Eg ‘I’m so happy and grateful now that …xyz’. (More about this in future posts).
- You have to be SUPER clear about what it is you want. Feel it, smell it, visualise every single aspect. The universe delivers, but it doesn’t interpret what it ‘thinks’ you might want …. I found that out the hard way lol.
- It’s none of your beeswax how this may come about. It’s not your job to know how or even when. It’s your job to trust that it will.
- Take some action. The universe can place you on the right path, but it won’t put the words in your mouth that you need to ask or speak them for you if you’re sitting back doing nothing. If you’ve read this far, is that really you anyway?!
I’d love to hear about your successes (or failures!) whilst getting into this awesome habit so feel free to share in the comments. Thanks for reading.
Love and light,